What happens in a session?
Counselling can be on a short or longer term basis. Counsellors don't give help or give advice, rather they can draw from their client what parts of their own behaviour they find difficult and want to change, and then the counsellor can support their client in changing or managing their reactions to what life brings to them. We can then learn new skills we haven’t yet mastered to enable lasting behaviour change.
What is Therapy?
Therapy is an opportunity for you to explore your thoughts and feelings with a qualified professional who will offer you confidentiality in a space where you can feel safe to be yourself. The therapist or counsellor will not be judgemental and will support you to explore your relationships and situations that may be a concern for you. Through this process you will gain insights and realisations as to the reasons why you feel uncomfortable or anxious in a particular setting, and will become more aware of how you can come to a solution for what may be unwanted behaviours and outcomes. Therapy is never about advice giving.
Anyone can benefit from therapy. To have objective, non-judgemental support from someone who treats you as an equal is very valuable in itself. Most of us suffer from loss at sometime in our lives. It could be loss of a loved one, a job, a way of life. Your therapist will support you to unravel what is needed next. We don’t have to be in crisis to see a counsellor or therapist. If you have a recurring concern therapy can help you to uncover what is behind the unwanted behaviour or situation.
It is important for you to feel comfortable around your counsellor because developing a relationship together is the core of the therapy. It is also important to go to a therapist who is qualified and registered with either the BACP (British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy) or a similar National register for therapists. It takes four to six years to train as a qualified counsellor or therapist, and our registered organisation requires us to have on-going training every year and supervision every month. BACP registered counsellors also work to the BACP Ethical Guidelines for Practice.
A qualified counsellor will have gone through their own therapy as part of the qualification and which is a part of caring for oneself. Self love and self care supports us to understand and connect closer with our bodies and our essence. If we make this a daily routine, the love within grows, and so does our awareness and care for others. This commitment to self has a beneficial effect on the way we live our lives. Life is more complete and when the body is settled, so is the mind. We have more resources and insights to offer as part of our work as counsellors or therapists.
Counselling usually lasts for 50 minutes, giving the counsellor time to reflect on the session and to write brief notes. Some therapists may offer an initial counselling session at a discount price so that you can have the opportunity to meet the counsellor, to see how they work and get a feel for what they can offer. Various charitable organisations offer counselling and it is possible to access counselling through the NHS too.
Our work together is private and confidential, however if I consider you or another person are at risk of serious harm I am legally obliged to break it. I work to GDPR Guidelines in respect of your data and privacy, and I am obliged to keep notes which will not identify you and which are kept securely.